Written on the 6 May 2019Hey Parents,
In today's society, we can expect parents to over-step boundaries, particularly when it comes to coaching from the sideline.
Alot of us parents are guilty of this to a degree from time to time. This article is to help inform "sideline parents" of the harmful effects their actions are causing.
Why Coaching from the Sidelines is Harmful to Your Child's Development
As parents, we want what's best for our children, and we also want our children to give it their best when they participate in extra-curricular sports and activities. The problem is, we sometimes get caught up in our desire to see our children perform well and we speak up at the wrong times. With that said, here are some details on how coaching from the sidelines plays a harmful role in our child's emotional development.
(Please note this information is easily related to other sports and activities.)
For starters: your child's brain is already occupied with so many thoughts. Take a sparring match for example:
Which technique should I throw?
You can imagine this a lot to think about, and when your parent is yelling at you, chances are the emotional cup will run over!
How about a simple class where your child is learning a technique? Here's what's going on in your child's mind:
What move is next?
Again, there's a lot of 'movement' going on with your child's neurons, and your coaching from the sidelines, be it positive or negative, could make your child's emotional stability fall off balance.
But let's not forget that your coaching is a distraction to other people besides just your child:
It distracts the other students.
So, although you have good intentions with coaching from the sidelines, there are more productive options:
1) Give your child tips and encouragement before class or competition.
2) Remain silent unless you see your child look to you for advice or support.
3) Provide constructive feedback after class or competition.
Hopefully, this article sheds some light on coaching from the sidelines and prompts you to take more constructive steps towards your child's performance in extra-curricular sports and activities. The goal should be to help foster growth and development, as well as encourage the fun out of it. After all, it's the great memories that last a lifetime.